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BOUNDARIES · 0:18

People-pleasing often sounds like “it is fine”

“” The difference may be whether no is allowed without punishment or pressure. Try this: Ask what happens if you cannot do it, then notice whether the answer respects your choice. What boundary is hardest to say clearly? Self-help only — not therapy, diagnosis, or emergency support.

Three takeaways

  1. The difference may be whether no is allowed without punishment or pressure.
  2. Focusing only on polite wording.
  3. Agreeing before testing whether choice is real.
  4. Ask what happens if you cannot do it, then notice whether the answer respects your choice.

Video transcript

You said: The difference may be whether no is allowed without punishment or pressure. Focusing only on polite wording. Try this: Ask what happens if you cannot do it, then notice whether the answer respects your choice.

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