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BOUNDARIES · 0:18

Disappointing someone is not the same as harming them · Variation 2

“” A limit may feel harsh when you are used to measuring safety through approval. Try this: State what you can and cannot do without assigning blame or controlling their response. Try Relationship Translator through the link in bio. Self-help only — not therapy, diagnosis, or emergency support.

Three takeaways

  1. A limit may feel harsh when you are used to measuring safety through approval.
  2. Confusing someone’s disappointment with evidence that the boundary is wrong.
  3. Removing the limit to stop the immediate discomfort.
  4. State what you can and cannot do without assigning blame or controlling their response.

Video transcript

You said: A limit may feel harsh when you are used to measuring safety through approval. Confusing someone’s disappointment with evidence that the boundary is wrong. Try this: State what you can and cannot do without assigning blame or controlling their response.

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